This blog post is for the boys! Being a wedding venue director for over 13 years at an NC Wedding Venue, I have witnessed many Grooms prepare for their wedding day at Butterfly Kisses Pavilion. While it's pretty standard that wedding planning is often the bride's domain, it's important for grooms to take an active role in making the day amazing as well! After all, it's their special day too. Being one of the longest established wedding venues in Newport, NC, and putting in much work with engaged couples planning a wedding in Newport, NC, I've put together an essentials checklist for grooms for you to download to make sure you have everything ready for the big day.
1. Coordinate with the Bride
You didn't just meet the love of your life and get engaged without communication! Wedding planning is no different. Have a chat with your fiancée about the vision for the wedding day. Discuss what each of you expects, any traditions you want experience, what is most important to you about your wedding planning, and the overall wedding style. Determine the expectation of your efforts and input to the wedding planning process
Here are some of the common wedding details we have seen Grooms assist with in the wedding planning process at our wedding venue in Newport, NC:
selecting a Wedding Venue & Wedding Professionals
Creating the guest list
Select wedding colors
Wedding Catering & Food Selection
Cocktails & Beverage Menu
2. Get your suit or tux
So many times I have witnessed brides express their concerns about their future husband not having their attire finalized. To ease any brides concerns, it certainly is not as extravagant of an experience as wedding dress shopping. Often times because renting a wedding tux or suit is such a simple experience it Grooms may not jump on the opportunity to finalize it as quick as it may be preferred.
Here are some key points to consider:
Determine if you are going to buy or rent: Purchasing a suit versus renting one can alter the amount of time you may need to start the process.
Renting online or Renting from a store: Online wedding rental companies is a great way to eliminate the need to coordinate with a store. Working with a local Wedding Tux Rental spot will give you more personalized care in person.
Get Fitted: Renting your tux online? Do you in-home try on 3-4 months prior to your event. Renting your tux from a store? Schedule your fitting no later than 2-3 months prior to your wedding This will give ample time for adjustments.
Accessorize your wedding attire: Choosing the right tie, shoes, and cufflinks can elevate your look and tie in your appearance with the overall theme of your wedding day. Some times these items are rented but sometimes these items are purchased as they are often sentimental accessories to the day.
Prioritize comfort: Since you'll be wearing this outfit for hours, make sure it fits well and is comfortable. Being an outdoor wedding venue in Newport, NC, we understand prioritizing our attire for wedding days to comfort.
Stylish Groom's Wedding Attire. Photo Credit: Drop Dead Shy Photography
3. Arrange for Groomsmen Duties
Having your best friends stand up as groomsmen can make your wedding day less stressful. Often times we see at our Newport NC Wedding Venue that your wedding party expects to help make this day special beyond witnessing your big day and toasting the couple.
Get with your wedding planner & partner and determine any potential help your groomsmen may need to provide:
Assign roles: Whether it's delivering decor to the wedding venue in the morning or greeting early arriving guest
Plan your wedding day morning: It's common the groom and his wedding party don't have nearly as much to do when getting ready for their big day. Detail out your morning so they don't lose track of time.
4. Groom the Groom!
Pamper yourself as you get ready for your big day. Brides get to do it, and you should too! Every groom should look their best on their special day.
Don't forget to schedule these Groom Task
Schedule a Shave & Cut: You know how you like to look! Schedule a Cut and a shave with your favorite Barber sometime in the two weeks before your wedding.
Pamper yourself: I know many grooms that have scheduled a massage or even a mani/pedi to give them a little extra relaxation for their wedding day.
Ready for the big day! Photo Credit: Sarah Kate Photography
5. Make a Plan for the Rings
When couples are planning a wedding in Newport NC, it often falls to the groom to handle the rings care once they have been selected.
Some details you should consider:
Assign a groomsman for wedding day safekeeping: Designate someone trustworthy such as your best man to hold the rings until the ceremony. While you may have a ring bearer it is not recommended to offer a child your rings.
Are you personalizing your rings?: Be sure when you collect your rings they are accurate.
6. Pack an Essentials Kit
Sometimes your wedding planner may have an emergency essentials kit but it is best for you to have one yourself. You don't need to pack the kitchen sink but some things that would make the unexpected less troublesome.
Consider including:
Items like: Extra ties, breath mints, and a sewing kit. You never know when you will need something
Designate a groomsman to carry the kit: This keeps everything easily accessible throughout the day and it's one less thing you have to worry about.
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As a groom, it's easy to feel like you may not have a lot of things to do for your wedding but no matter how involved you are in the wedding planning process you are an important part of it. Consider this checklist and adjust it to your needs.
Whether you are getting married at our Open Air Chapel in the beautiful open sky at Butterfly Kisses Pavilion, or celebrating your nuptials at the beautiful Crystal Coast or the charming small towns around us in Eastern NC, we are strive to help you create unforgettable memories together.
Here’s to love, laughter, and a well-planned wedding day! If you need help planning your wedding in Newport NC and you want to consider an affordable wedding venue to help you get there Contact Us. Cheers to us grooms who take charge and ensure our special day is the best day ever!
We'd like to give a nod to some of our friends across the US, our fellow Local Wedding Venues. Thank you for all of your support to our all of us Small Businesses in Wedding Industry!
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